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Make a website for your husband
After a few years of marriage the sincere things stop getting said, not because they stopped being true but because there is always a school run. A website for your husband is a place to say them once, properly, at a link he can open on the train.
The page that works for a husband is built from ordinary life: reasons with evidence from this month, a quiz about the house and the kids that he will score badly on, a prize wheel of things he gets to skip, a voice note, and a letter that is honest rather than grand. The Classic format keeps it quiet; the Receipt format makes it a bill for twelve years.
Reasons from the last month, not from the vows
The reasons block is the heart of a page for a husband, and the rule is that every line has to be something he did recently. 'You got up with the baby on Tuesday and did not mention it.' 'You fixed the gate the day I said it was annoying.' 'You still text me when you land.' Ten lines like that, with an emoji each, ordered so the last one is the one you would not say at dinner. Qualities are easy to write and easy to skim; evidence is neither, and evidence is what makes him read a list twice. If you are stuck, scroll through the last month of your chat and pick the moments you forgot to say thank you for.
A quiz about the house
Five questions with a score: the name of the kids' teacher, where the spare keys are, what day the bins go out, the thing you always ask him to buy and he always forgets, your coffee order. He will get three and argue about the fourth. Set the score text so a low score reads 'Still keeping you' and a high score reads 'Suspiciously well informed'. It is a joke, and it is also a small, warm reminder of how much of a shared life is made of things only the two of you know. Put it early, before the sincere blocks, so the page starts with a laugh. Five questions is the right number; he is playing on his phone in a queue, and the score is the punchline.
The wheel of things he gets to skip
The prize wheel usually holds date ideas; for a husband, fill it with exemptions. One Saturday morning with no plans. One dinner he does not have to attend. His choice of film for a month. A day where the group chat is muted and nobody asks him anything. One home project you drop. Six slices, all real, all things you have already decided to grant. He spins, you honour it. It is the block that makes him laugh out loud, and it is also, quietly, a list of things you noticed he needs. Write the slices in his words rather than yours, 'a Saturday with no plans' rather than 'a day off', and put a date on any you can, because a dated exemption is a promise and an undated one is a suggestion. He will spin it in front of you, so be ready to honour the first result.
The voice note and the letter
The voice block records from the browser, and twenty seconds of you saying the thing you never get to say at the end of a day is worth more than a page of text. Record it in the car, or after the kids are asleep. Then the sealed letter: not the summary of the marriage, which he was there for, but this year, what it took, and what you saw him do. Two hundred words, written the way you talk. Seal it in the letter block so it has to be tapped, and put it last, after the reply box has been set up beneath it so he has somewhere to answer. If you cannot say it in twenty seconds, you have not found the sentence yet.
Receipt or Classic, and adding to it every year
The Receipt format turns the page into a bill: 'Years: 12. Arguments about the thermostat: 400. Times you were right: 3, disputed.' Total: no refunds. It is the right choice if his sense of humour is dry and the page is for a small day. Classic is right for an anniversary or a birthday, with the letter first and the jokes after. Both keep the same link forever, and the edit link means you can add a block on the next anniversary rather than starting again. Some couples keep one page for the whole marriage and add a timeline entry a year; it is the cheapest archive there is. Pick the format by the day: a Tuesday page can be a receipt, an anniversary page should be a scroll.
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